How To Get People To Think Highly of You

We all like people to think well of us. However, getting people to think highly of you isn’t always easy and can be a real challenge.

Here are some steps to get people to think highly of you.


It’s amazing how far a simple smile can go. A smile is warm, friendly, and inviting. It lowers people’s defenses and makes them feel more comfortable around you. A smile can also help brighten someone else’s day. Don’t be afraid to smile. If makes you more likable.

Positive Body Language

If you want others to think highly of you keep positive body language. That means avoiding bad body language like crossing your arms and pointing your feet away. Keep your body language open and maintain good eye contact. Show that you are engaged and care what other people have to say.

Bring Value To Others

So many of us are always thinking how we can extract value from others and do whatever we can to help ourselves. Think about what you can for others. What value can you provide for others? Are you there for your friend who needs help moving? Do you shovel your neighbors driveaway? Do you hold the door for the person walking behind you?

There are so many ways to bring value for others and when you do these things you’ll be amazed at the return it can bring and the loyalty it will generate.

Ask How You Can Help

This goes with bringing value to others. If you don’t know how to do that ask! Ask your co-worker, friend, family, etc., what you can do to help out. What can you do to make their life easier? Sometimes you won’t know unless you ask.

Compliment People

Everyone likes to feel appreciated and valued. Complimenting someone is a great way to do that. If someone does a good job let them know. If someone does you a favor, thank them and tell them how much you appreciate them.

When you compliment others you will find more people giving you compliments. People will begin reciprocating your behavior.

Avoid Complaining

Yes, it can feel really good to complain sometimes. However, it doesn’t do much to gain respect from other people or make you a more likable person. Usually complaining has the opposite effect. Keep the complaining to yourself.

Be Reliable

Do you show up on time? Do you do things you say you’re going to do? Being reliable is a huge way to get people to think highly of you. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Show other people they can count on you. This creates trust and in turn you will find more people you can trust and lean on.

Don’t Gossip About Others

Gossiping about other people can be tempting but if you speak poorly of someone behind their back it will likely get back to that person. Have you ever asked yourself what you have to gain from badmouthing people behind their back? Doing this provides zero value to anyone and just makes you look bitter to others, which is not an endearing quality.

Speak Well Of Others When They Aren’t Around

When you hear about someone badmouthing you behind your back it makes you lose respect for that person. It makes you not like that person.

Speaking well of someone behind their back does the opposite. Complimenting someone behind their back can actually be more effective than complimenting them face to face. The compliment often times finds its way back to the person you’re complimenting and because they heard the compliment through another person it makes you endearing.

People like hearing positive things about themselves.

Look Presentable

People will form opinions about you before you ever say a word. Make sure you keep a presentable appearance and keep good hygiene. If you want to make a great first impression, this is a great step.

Show Interest In Others

People love to talk about themselves but they also love to be heard. Ask questions and show interest in others. When you take the time to listen and take interest in others you will find more people doing the same for you. This is one of the biggest traits that leads to likability.

Treat Everyone With Respect

Respect goes a long way to being a likable person. That means treating everyone with respect, not just people who can help you. That means respecting people who are at the top, the bottom, and everywhere in between. How you treat others is a major indicator of a person’s character. People notice how you treat others and if you show respect to everyone, you will gain respect.

Say People’s Names

Everyone enjoys hearing their own name. It gives a personal touch. This is especially effective when meeting new people. It helps to build trust and makes you seem like a friend instead of a random stranger.

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